You are often the friend who is taking care of everyone else, and you don’t mind it at all. You love being there for your loved ones and showing them how much they mean to you. However, when it comes to your own needs? You don’t want to trouble anyone. You’ll insist that you’re totally fine, even if you’re not.
You find that the people in your life usually come to you for advice or support when they are struggling. You’re able to see everyone else’s version of a given situation, and it gives you a strong advantage in helping others when they need it most. The issue is when you’re the one who needs something, you feel awful asking others to help you out. You don’t want to burden anyone with your problems.
Would you do just about anything for the people you care about? Absolutely. Yet you don’t expect that others will do the same for you. You usually know what you need, but expressing it is pretty vulnerable for you. You would much rather wait and see if they can figure it out than ask for anything outright.
What? You, having needs? That’s ridiculous. Okay, you’re not that dramatic- you know you are a human being who requires help sometimes. You can easily communicate what would help you, but you often struggle believing anyone should take care of you. You believe you are more than capable of taking care of yourself, and you are! Yet everyone needs help from time to time, including you.
Given your dependable nature, it’s not shocking that people would turn to you when they need some help. Yet when it comes to yourself? You are one to deny you ever need anything. You just keep your head down and bury yourself in work, pushing to take care of everything on your own. You don’t have to do it all alone, even if you are convinced that’s the case.
You try your best to accommodate everyone and ensure they are well taken care of. You feel everyone should be heard and taken into account- yet you often don’t include yourself. You don’t want to risk your wants or needs overshadowing someone else, or god forbid inconveniencing them. You’ll stay quiet if you believe it will allow everything to run smoother.