{"id":3388,"date":"2022-02-13T22:11:01","date_gmt":"2022-02-13T22:11:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.zodiacheist.com\/?p=3388"},"modified":"2022-02-13T22:11:01","modified_gmt":"2022-02-13T22:11:01","slug":"finding-love-need-begins","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zodiacheist.com\/finding-love-need-begins\/","title":{"rendered":"Finding The Love You Need Begins With You"},"content":{"rendered":"
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You may have heard this a million times before, but the\u00a0love\u00a0you need begins with loving yourself as perfectly as possible. I know this because that\u2019s been my life the past few months, and I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve ever been more in love with myself than I am now.<\/p>\n

Love is a lot of things, but in its true definition it is\u00a0definitely<\/b>\u00a0not painful. Nonetheless, bad love builds character in the sense that amidst the dysfunction, we discover parts of ourselves we don\u2019t like. If you\u2019re self-aware and appreciate progress as much as most successful people do, you\u2019ll notice some not-so-cute parts of yourself and learn vital lessons from the pain you experience. Once your lessons are learned, you\u2019ll be less likely to fall into patterns that have led you to feeling like shit in the name of \u201clove\u201d. It\u2019s one thing to realize that the situation you\u2019re in is bad, but it\u2019s a whole other \u201cRed Table Talk\u201d when you have to convince yourself that some good can come out of it if you leave early enough.<\/p>\n

The part where you begin to manifest the love you need is in the healing process. So, you\u2019ve left the bad relationship and have made mental notes of the things you don\u2019t want from the next opportunity to find love \u2014 now what? Mastering self-love is the next step.\u00a0Self-love\u00a0isn\u2019t just taking yourself out on regular solo dates, spoiling yourself, and posting motivational quotes on the \u2018Gram. Self love is\u00a0holding yourself accountable<\/b>\u00a0for the contributions you\u2019ve made in the failure of your previous relationships, having regular check-ins with your heart to make sure it\u2019s okay, and most importantly, saying no to things that don\u2019t align with the person you want to be. People will call you selfish and picky, but I can guarantee that not being so accessible to people is what\u2019ll open your eyes to things you don\u2019t want, thus making it easier to avoid them altogether. In doing so, you not only avoid repeating old dysfunctional patterns, but you also avoid creating new ones that are equally bad for you.<\/p>\n

Self-love is reminding yourself every day that\u00a0love is a beautiful thing<\/b>, and that because you are beautiful,\u00a0you deserve it in its purest, most sincere form<\/b>. Being intimate with yourself (not just in a se*ual way, if that\u2019s a thing for you) is probably the most important part in the self-love journey. Intimacy strengthens any bond created, and what better bond is there to strengthen than the one you have with your best self? It\u2019s like getting to know someone new. You\u2019re getting to know who you are, what you like and don\u2019t like. Elevating your self-awareness to such a level is guaranteed to keep you from settling for an imitation or version of love that won\u2019t build you.<\/p>\n

Energy is everything, and when you love yourself more, you attract people who vibrate at the same frequency. A healthy love between two (or more) people is one where two (or more) people who love themselves wholly come together to share in that love with each other. There is little to no space for petty relationship BS that\u2019s plaguing and destroying modern relationships when you and your person effortlessly yet intentionally give love as much as you\u2019re receiving it. The love you need is not hard to find, because it begins with you.<\/p>