Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)
You get angry. Instead of walking away from the narcissist and finding someone better, someone who actually deserves you, you instigate arguments. You get into screaming matches at two in the morning. You try to force the narcissist into seeing the situation from your point of view. When that doesn’t work, you try to get revenge. You try to make the narcissist feel as much pain as you have felt.
Since you are so stubborn, you stay in the relationship for much longer than you should, even though you rebel against the narcissist the entire time. You do not give in easily. You do not give in at all. The entire relationship ends up reading more like a horror story than a romance.
Earth (Tarus, Virgo, Capricorn)
A narcissist cannot keep you around for long. The second you catch a whiff of their true self, you will break up with them. You don’t have time for mind games. You don’t have the patience to wait for them to wake up and realize you deserve more. You already know you deserve more.
You aren’t the type to have the same argument a million times in a row. You aren’t the kind to let yourself get walked over without putting up a fight. You are going to break up with a narcissist before they see it coming and no amount of apologies can change your mind. Once they lose you once, they lose you forever. There is no going back.
Air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)
You spend the entire course of the relationship feeling bad for yourself. Every time the narcissist does something wrong, you end up blaming yourself. You end up hating yourself. You become overly attached to the narcissist and think that their opinion is the only one that matters. You stop seeing yourself as someone of value and start seeing yourself the way that they claim to see you. As someone ugly. Someone annoying. Someone worthless.
You let them shape your mind until you no longer recognize who you see when you stare into the mirror. Even after you come to your senses and leave the relationship, you will still suffer from what they did to you. It will take some time for you to see your worth again.
Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)
You will try to change the narcissist. You feel like, if you work hard enough, then you will be able to make them treat you the way you deserve. You are a giver. A deliverer of second chances. Whenever your narcissist apologizes, you assume they are being genuine and you let them try again. You let them hurt you again.
You are convinced that your love for them will be enough to make them change. Even when the present is a living hell, you keep telling yourself that the future is going to be better. You keep lying to yourself to keep the relationship afloat, because you don’t know what you would do without them.