Be unapologetically yourself. Don’t try to say the thing you think they want to hear. Say whatever is in your heart. Find someone you can be your real self around because the real you is good enough.
Set boundaries and refuse to deal with anyone who pushes against them. If they are unable to respect your ground rules, they don’t respect you as a human being. And you can’t create a healthy, long-lasting relationship with someone like that.
Go to bed angry. Give yourself time to think things over instead of blurting out the first thing that comes to mind. Wait until you’re both in calm, rational mindsets to have a conversation so you don’t end up saying things you regret and can never take back.
Let your vulnerability shine through. Don’t hide behind closed doors when you feel yourself tearing up. Don’t pretend everything is okay when your heart is aching. The right person for you will be able to handle your emotions gently. They won’t run away at the first tear.
Remember the importance of space. Even if you’ve found the perfect person for you, you aren’t meant to spend every waking moment together. You should have overlapping lives – but separate lives. You’re still an individual even though you’re part of a pair now.
Ask for the things that matter the most to you. Don’t expect your person to read your mind or guess what you have been thinking about lately. Use your words. Use your voice. The right person might not be a mind reader, but they will listen closely when you have a request.
Remember that arguments aren’t inherently a bad thing. It’s good to get your feelings out in the open. It’s healthy to speak what’s on your mind – as long as you’re both doing so in a respectful, productive way. The right person would never want you to hold your pain inside.
Be flexible, but not a pushover. Relationships require compromise. You can’t expect to get your way one hundred percent of the time. But you shouldn’t be sacrificing what you want all the time, either. There should be a balance.
Pay close attention to their behaviors. If their actions and their words aren’t lining up, then there’s an issue. Your person could say all the right things at the right time, but that means nothing if they never follow through and rise to your expectations. The right person will mean what they say.
Love fearlessly. Don’t be scared of how badly this person could hurt you in the future because it will take away from the fun you could be having today. Yes, there’s always a chance that you could end up shattered, but as long as you’re smart about who you give your heart, the ride will be worth it.
Put effort into showing them affection. Don’t assume they already know how you feel. And don’t take their presence in your life for granted simply because they’ve been around a while. Remind them how much they mean to you every chance you get. They deserve it. And so do you.
Disconnect from technology when you’re together. Don’t stare down at a screen when they’re speaking. Don’t have your head buried in your phone when they’re in the room with you. Make sure the quality time you spend together is actually spent together.