Never adhere to the statement that in love you always get what you give. This is rarely the case.
There are so many cases where people give so much more than they get in a relationship. These are the relationships that are downright abusive and toxic.
These are the relationships that you really need to avoid at all costs. These are the relationships that ruin people’s lives and their entire attitude towards love.
This is why it is very important that you never get involved in a relationship in which you give more than you get. This is what real love never looks like. A strong relationship always has an equal exchange of love and affection.
Remember, you are the one who decides how much you can ask of a relationship. You can decide whether a relationship is worth it or not.
You can decide whether a person deserves your love or not.
It is often comforting to believe that just because you give so much to that person, you deserve someone’s love. But here too you have to be realistic. That is not always a guarantee.
Just because you are giving your all to another person doesn’t necessarily mean that person will reciprocate that warm gesture.
There are terribly selfish people who are not ready to enter into this kind of relationship with you; these are people who don’t want to meet you halfway. And unfortunately that is the sad truth.
But at the end of the day, you are still the one who decides what kind of love you are ready to receive from another person. You are still the one making the decision to either stay or leave and find someone who is a better fit for you.
In this situation you have the power. And to help you become more aware of your power, here are a few things that you need to keep in mind in order to get the kind of love you really deserve:
1. If you give everything, you won’t get anything.
Better to leave a little bit for yourself. In a relationship there is also room for a little selfishness. You don’t always have to be the one who gives everything and gives the most. Your partner needs to be able to meet you halfway.
2. Your limits dictate how others should treat you.
Be clear and open about your limits in a relationship. Don’t tolerate rowdy behavior from your partner. Always make sure that you are treated the way you would like to be treated.
3. Others will only love you as much as you are willing to love yourself.
Show yourself a little more love and others will follow you. When you are too hard on yourself, others think it’s okay to be hard on you.
4. Some people just can’t be changed.
If your partner is by nature a despicable person, then you simply have to accept that sometimes not even all the love in the world is enough to make that person become a better person.
5. Giving a second chance is fine, but you should draw the line on a third chance.
A few mistakes should be allowed. There is a certain amount of apprenticeship that you need to consider especially in new relationships. But when disrespect and disappointment become a constant issue, you really need to draw a line.
6. Everyone deserves to be happy – and one person’s happiness is as important as that of another.
Just because you’re happy doesn’t mean your partner has to be unhappy. And vice versa. It is perfectly normal for both of you to be happy at the same time.
Neither of you should have the sole right to happiness in the relationship.
7. Good deeds are only as good as the intentions behind them.
Your partner could do anything beautiful in the world for you, but that’s not enough. He must mean it.
If he or she is just doing nice things for you to get you to do something nice for him or her, then his or her intentions are not pure.
8. Be a little more aggressive instead of being a passive victim.
If your partner isn’t treating you right, do something about it. Stop complaining and nagging to your friends about your partner’s shortcomings in romance.
Be more aggressive and tackle the problem head on. The problem cannot be solved with passive behavior.
9. You can only be as happy as you allow yourself to be.
Allow yourself to smile. Remember, at the end of the day, you decide whether you are happy or not. You are allowed to pursue your own happiness. You are still the master of your own destiny.
You are in charge of your life and nobody else.