Since you’ve spent forever looking forward to your wedding, you might have thought planning would be a bunch of fun. But there’s way more stress involved in wedding planning than anyone realizes until it’s their turn to set plans. Even though wedding planning is stressful for absolutely everyone and it’s perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed, here are some of the signs who tend to struggle the most:
You’re a people-pleaser who wants to make everyone around you happy, which is why wedding planning is extra stressful for you. You feel pressured to listen to what other people are telling you in order to keep the peace and avoid arguments. But this is a time when you’re allowed to be a little selfish. You shouldn’t choose your dress or your venue or your guest list based off of what other people want or expect from you. You need to start asking yourself what you and your partner would want. This day is about the two of you. Not anybody else.
You’ve never been great at sticking to decisions because you don’t want to make the wrong one. Your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so you’re going to feel a lot of pressure to get it right. You don’t want to disappoint anyone — including yourself. Especially with all the money that you’re spending. You don’t want to pick the wrong DJ or cake or photographer and end up regretting it for the rest of your marriage. But you need to remember, you can’t predict the future. The best you can do is research your options and pick what works best for you. Everything else is out of your hands.
Sometimes, you can be a bit of a pushover. You are too nice to stand up for yourself — but that needs to change. If someone in your family is pressuring you to invite a certain person or wear a certain dress or serve certain food, make it clear that this is not their day. It’s yours. Feel free to hear out opinions from the people who matter the most to you, but don’t let them take control. Don’t allow them to make decisions that you aren’t comfortable with when this day is supposed to be about you and your partner and your love. If others aren’t happy with your decisions, so what?
You want to accommodate every single person you invite, which is impossible. You can’t make everyone happy and trying to do so is only going to make you miserable. Different people have different tastes in music and decorations and food, so there is always going to be a complaint about something. So you might as well do whatever makes you and your partner the happiest. Put your opinions ahead of everyone else because if they genuinely want you to be happy, they will support you. And if they don’t support you, you might have to be more careful about who you trust in the future.